A relaxed state is the default state of the body. Most of us don’t know what it actually feels like to relax because we exist under a constant state of low grade stress. Our busy, on-the-go lifestyles are to blame.
Before pushing coping mechanisms to the limit, consider making time for unstructured leisure time each day or week. Making time to relax is not a luxury. If the possibility of relaxing stirs up a reaction, all the more reason to do it.
There are some proven relaxation techniques–breathing exercises, massage, meditation, yoga, listening to music, etc. It’s best to experiment and see what works best for your body. Maybe reading a book or taking a walk will provide relief.
Incorporating relaxation into your schedule and practicing over time will help improve your ability to relax. It’s important to be patient when learning a new skill. It gets easier the more you do it.
The end goal is to be able to notice how the body feels under stress (i.e. an active mind or tense body) and select the technique that enables the body to come back to it’s natural relaxed state.